Thursday, August 28, 2014

Reasons Why You Shouldn't Self-Harm




Already Cutting, STOP! Thinking about it, DON’T START!
Cutting is not glamorous. It is not something that should be used to cope with anything you’re going through, and certainly should never be used as an attention-getting tactic. Cutting comes with a whole list of serious consequences that will affect the rest of your life, along with another group of relatively minor, but still burdensome annoyances.

Forget shorts, short sleeves, tank tops, bathing suits, or anything else you might want to wear in hot weather. You’ve got to hide those scars, burns, or bruises that will be there for months or years. So, plan on being really uncomfortable and sweaty in the summer. Anyway, if you’re wearing sweatpants and a hoodie at the beach on a 90-degree day, who do you think you’re fooling?

Cutters have to stock up on bandages. There you’ll be anxiously standing in line at the pharmacy checkout counter holding enough medical supplies to start a clinic for the homeless. People are going to notice.

Cut too deep, burn too much and you’ll end up in the emergency room—either that or risk dying. Once there, you know they’re going to ask questions. Lie all you want, they know self-mutilation when they see it. You’re going to be so embarrassed, like the cat that swallowed the canary, when complete strangers figure out what you’re doing. Your embarrassment will turn to humiliation when the medical staff start stitching you up.

Figuring you did this to yourself, some doctors won’t give you an anesthetic. If surgery is required, you’ll be days or weeks recovering from it. If they think you meant to hurt yourself badly, you can end up in the psych ward and you won’t be released until they consider you stable enough to be alone once again.

Of course, the worst that could happen is that you’ll unintentionally end your life. You might be high or drunk, cut too deep, pass out, and since cutters are usually alone slowly bleed to death. Almost as bad as you dying, your family and friends will be left to mourn your passing and feel guilty that they didn’t know what you were doing and find a way to help you. Your immediate family will be hit the hardest—you’ll leave them in grieving agony because of your costly mistake.

Does that sound bad, here are more of the Mental & Emotional consequences of cutting.

From the day you start, you’re peace of mind will be gone. Every second, every minute, every hour of every day, your thoughts will be consumed with either when you can cut next, or how you’re going to hide your secret. Nothing else in your life will matter. And don’t plan on ever being rid of your compulsive urges to cut because even after you’ve stopped and gone through therapy, they’ll still be there haunting you like Ghostface, from the slasher flick, Scream, and that’s exactly how you’re going to feel—like you want to SCREAM.

I pretty much stopped cutting a year ago and to this day thoughts of harming myself surface daily. So, once you start, there’s no going back. If you’re already cutting, get used to obsessing about it, like that bad summer pop song you heard a million times on the radio, and now it’s on a permanent replay loop in your head.

Need other reasons not to cut, the bullies and haters, they’ll take advantage of your weakness and vulnerability and mock you for it. You’ll have to deal with assholes who will push you down, slander and judge you for something you can’t control. Mix that in with a general state of masochism, varying degrees of depression, and feeling like you’re drowning in self-loathing, and that’s what you have to look forward to as a cutter.

Still not convinced?

As soon as they hear what you’re doing, you’ll lose even your best friends, forget holding on to a boyfriend or girlfriend, and even family are likely to turn on you. If you’re close to any of these people, it will cut worse than your sharpest razor blade.

The moment they find out can be hell.

The person who finds out is likely to yell at you, scream bloody murder, or break down balling. Family can freak out to the point of literally and legally disowning you. It’s not likely you’re going actually tell anyone, but know this, someone will find out your secret.

Bottom line, when it’s all said and done, when your arms and thighs are riddled with permanent scars, when you’ve alienated everyone who matters in your life, it will all have been for nothing. Sure, you may have temporarily relieved some tensions, kept your emotions from disappearing, even felt really alive for the first time in a long time, but it won’t last.

Once the endorphin rush fades, like the bad addiction that it is, the cutting will only leave you feeling worse than ever—more depressed, more hopeless, hating yourself more. This downward cycle will suck you into an endless rabbit hole of self-destruction.

The true irony is that sooner or later you’ll either stop or die. Since few cutters actually kill themselves, if you start you’ll be caught in a rip tide of addiction that will be next to impossible to break away from. At that point the road to recovery will be littered with deep potholes. Even if you successfully quit, the constant urges are likely to cause a relapse and you’ll have to go through the whole process all over again. Like the legendary Sisyphus who was condemned to push a bolder up a hill over and over again for all eternity, if you start cutting you’ll be risking a lifetime of struggle, pain, and disappointment.

Have I convinced you?


If you’re not cutting, don’t start. Don’t become another victim of the vicious cycle of self-harm. Don’t fall for the alluring illusion that cutting will be the answer to all of your problems. If you’ve already begun, stop now. Like all addicts, if you are cutting you may have to reach rock bottom before you get help, and believe me that is NOT a FUN place to be.

Outline


THINKING OF CUTTING, DON’T

Serious Lifelong Consequences
Along with Burdensome Annoyances
You’ll Need Medical Supplies
Emergency Room Docs Will Know
You might Kill Yourself by Accident

EMOTIONAL EFFECTS   

Peace of Mind Gone for Good
Never be Free from the Urge to Cut
Your Relationships will End
The Haters will Pounce

STILL NOT CONVINCED 

The Moment they Find Out will be Hell
You Will Stop or Die – So Why Start
To Stop You’ll have to hit Rock Bottom

Not a Fun place to Be

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